Sunday September 25, 2011

As a single man that has used the world of online dating as a place of hope and desire to find an eventual wife I am starting to rethink my entire thought process.

I have been on several dating sites and they are all the same. I have made some good friends as a result but really have found more opportunities to sin than anything else. It doesn't matter if it's been Christian dating sites or secular dating sites. Everyone on there is looking for companionship. It's just that we all have different opinions of what that should be.

I am not going to go into today all the pros and cons of online dating but really the importance of faith and the most important relationship of all. The relationship that we have with God.

Here recently I put on one of the secular dating sites that I am basically only looking for friends to discuss the glory and grace of Christ. I also said that if anyone was in need of prayer that all they needed to do was email me their name and a little background on the situation and I would promise to lift them in prayer.

I received the same prayer request over and over. The same prayer request that I have also received from some of my single friends in the last year. To pray for God to bring the person into their life that He desires them to build a life with and to extinguish their loneliness. I always have done as asked and lifted them in prayer.

This really started to make me think though. What exactly are these people looking for? Why is there a void in their hearts and lives (just as in my own)? Why is God taking His own sweet time to answer these prayers?

As a believer I believe that God answers every prayer in one of three ways. Yes, no or not yet! Why would a relational God be answering so many prayers with not yet?

Well I believe through prayer that the Holy Spirit is speaking to my heart and mind. I now have some answers to this question.

I know God desires us all to be happy and in healthy relationships. I also believe that God desires us to make our relationship with Him our first priority. Why would He brings us the distraction of a partner when Christ is so badly desiring us to have a daily and faithful relationship with Him. I believe that is where God is answering these prayers of myself and my Christian friends with not yet. I believe when we live for Christ and are in relation with Christ in everything we do that He will then bring us to that perfect mate that He created just for us. I believe the reason that He is waiting is so that when He does bring that person into our life that we both will be able to build up His Kingdom through our obedience and relationship with Jesus.

So the lessons here that we must learn are lessons of obedience, faithfulness, trust and patience and then and only then will God answer those prayers of loneliness with Yes, here he/she is to live your life for Me as my faithful and loving children.

Dear Lord,
I pray for this lesson you have put into my heart today to be your Holy Will for me. I pray that you will give me the strength daily to be patient and obedient to you so that I may grow in relation with you Lord Father. I pray that when I am capable of submitting all of my desires to you God that then you will be faithful and deliver the woman that is to be my wife. She will be hand picked by you Father to serve you with me Lord. She will be the lady that I will honor you with by me being loving and faithful to her and I will love her as Jesus has loved us, His Body the church. I thank you Lord for allowing me this opportunity to speak and minister these lessons for you and your Glory. I thank you Jesus for Love and Grace that you have afforded me a new day and eternal and everlasting life through your Blood. I pray that these thoughts and prayers are easily converted by you into my daily life. I thank you God for your desire of a relationship with me. I love you Lord Jesus. In Christ I pray. Amen